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Expressing Positive Feelings
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Giving compliments is an important skill with which you can give feedback to people about aspects of their behaviour, clothing, performance and appearance.
Benefits of Compliments
Compliments reinforce friendships/relationships and when you compliment another person, it creates a positive atmosphere in which you can later discuss negative feelings more easily.
Why We Do Not Give Compliments
We hesitate to give compliments because:
- We think that a person should know how we feel.
- It feels stupid.
- We feel it is his job to do something.
- We are afraid they will think we want something from them.
- People may think we are mocking them or are insincere.
- We are afraid others will feel embarrassed.
Receiving Compliments
It is important to receive a compliment with grace. It requires that you at least say “Thank you” but you may add something else such as expressing appreciation.
When you brush aside a compliment, you are:
- Telling the person that he has poor taste or that he is dishonest.
- Punishing him because he is expressing his positive feelings.
- Reducing the possibility that he will do it again.